I think one of the most important things I do with my life is to help to empower disempowered women, particularly those who grew up in patriarchal, misogynistic and abusive homes.
Recently I worked with a woman who ‘felt sorry’ for her ex-husband, and ‘didn’t want to hurt his feelings’, so she kept him in her life and had recently invited him to dinner.
This is, unfortunately, not surprising from a woman who was sexually, emotionally and physically abused as a child.
During our session she came to realize that she doesn’t owe her ‘good friendship’ to a man who lied to her, who cheated on her, who stole from her, who manipulated her, who brainwashed her and who embarrassed her. Never mind the fact that she stood up for him in court and defended him when he was accused of being a pedophile, denying both his daughter’s and granddaughter’s experiences.
I encouraged to tell the truth, to herself and to me. A most empowering process!
We tapped together on her fear, we tapped on her conditioning, (that is ‘what women are supposed to do’), we tapped on the belief that ‘women have to be slaves to men’, we tapped on her shame, (at having been raped by her ex-husband’s guru), and we tapped on her sadness and rage.
We tapped on her feeling sorry for him, we tapped on her numbness, we tapped on her denial.
At the end of our hour and a half together she noted that for the first time in her life, she felt calm, and peaceful, able and aware that she needed to hear and speak her own truth in order to move forward in her own life and stop feeling numb. She no longer believes that she has to continue to protect her ex. She recognized that she now has some new strategies for survival, ones that involve speaking up, and using powerful words like pedophile, a word that she couldn’t even say at the beginning of our EFT Tapping Session this morning.
When I wrote her later to ask for her permission to publish this article on empowering disempowered women she wrote back with this testimonial.
After working with Alice all I can say is wow and thank you for that wonderful, awesome session.
It’s hard having to be honest with yourself. I’ve been divorced for 7 years after a 25 years marriage , and yet I still can’t so NO to my ex. And still having to be nice to him, even though I still have all this anger towards him .
I had to own up to the truth and have Alice be my witness, telling her that my ex is a liar, cheater, stealer, pervert, pedophile, manipulator, control freak etc, and that as long as I keep my mouth shut, I am giving him permission to keep being a creep and a pervert and I keep my anger and rage inside if me, which is disempowering me.
I realized in order to be empowered and get my freedom I will have to speak my truth to my ex, which up to this point I thought was impossible because of fears and beliefs. But now, I understand, I am strong enough and believe in myself. As I am preparing my talk to my ex, I am getting excited and feeling empowered. YES I now know and I am ready to speak my truth to my ex.
Speak your truth, and your truth will set you free.
Sue, Colorado USA
